The real and genuine you


I used to be afraid to talk to people.

If I were in WalMart and I saw you across the store, I’d go down a different aisle. It wasn’t that I didn’t like you, or that I didn’t want to be your friend, but I wasn’t sure what to say.

If you spotted me first, I’d chat and put on a good face and pretend that I wasn’t afraid, but afterward I’d wonder. . .

Did I say the wrong thing?

Or a dumb thing?

It’s so weird to consider the girl I once was, because today I’d put my hands on the cart and march across the store to say hello.

And I wouldn’t give a thought about what I said, or didn’t say. I’d simply enjoy the conversation.


When you discover your true identity, you don’t have to pretend (or be afraid) anymore. 

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Week #2: The way you see yourself impacts the way your child sees himself

Look in the mirror.

What do you see?

And what does that have to do with being a mom?


Maybe someone who should have nurtured you used words that hurt you instead. Words like:





Did you know that we don’t form our sense of identity on upon reality, but upon how we believe others perceive us?

When that person fills a big place in your life  — a grandparent or parent, spouse, or  guardian — their words take up a lot of space in who you think you are. [Read more...]

Unpacking unhealthy legacies so you can repack


Answer all of the questions on pages 25 to 27 in The Mom I Want to Be: Rising Above the Past to Give Your Kids a Great Future.

Remember, there aren’t wrong or right answers. At this point, you’re simply taking a good look at your legacy.

You’re preparing to unpack some stuff that doesn’t really belong to you anymore.

You’re growing a new branch of your family tree!


Q: What legacy would you like to give your children? How does that differ from what was given to you?

As you dig in, you might experience a road block. You might learn something you didn’t know about yourself. You might see things from an adult’s perspective, rather than that of a child.

As we move into Week #2 of this study, how can I (and my prayer team) pray with you over this?

Father, thank you for my friend. Thank you that you take us on the harder paths of healing so we can be free. Thank you that we do not walk those alone, but rather you lead us, guide us, and carry us through those places that seem impossible. With you all things are possible. In Jesus’ name, amen. 

I’ll see you on Monday! We’ll cover Chapter Two next week: Broken Mirrors.


We are not victims, we are strong women of faith


Your past matters.

To God. To those who love you best. To you.

But you might not feel comfortable talking about it because you don’t want to be a victim.

Maybe you are saying, “It happened then. Not now.”

You don’t want to be labeled by your past. You don’t want what someone else did, or even what you might have done years ago, to define you.

I get that. 

Can I share something that absolutely changed everything for me? [Read more...]

Week #1 mom2b – How do I get rid of this junk?




We can draw lessons from the past, but we cannot live in it. ~ Lyndon B. Johnson

Consider your past.

It’s your legacy. It’s what was handed down to you. Sometimes, in fact most times, it’s what was handed down to the person one generation behind you.

You know, that person who hurt your heart.

And here you stand. A mama who wants to give her children something greater.

Or maybe you’re not a mama yet, but you fear that you’ll fail one day in that role.

Maybe you carried some of the baggage into your relationship with your child and you wonder if it’s too late.


For each of you, this study is for you.  [Read more...]

New study beginning September 10th



It’s the study I promised.

It’s the book that will always be my heart book. The one that changed me forever as a mom.

Maybe you are in the midst of messy motherhood and you love it, but your past is a hindrance. You have some baggage to unpack so you can give your child a greater legacy.

Maybe your children are grown, and you wonder how a “mom” book can help you.

Maybe you are the mom that has regrets, and you can’t undo what has already taken place.

Maybe you aren’t a mom yet, and yet you want to be one day.

This study is for each of you.

Because it is never too late or too early to grow a new branch of your family tree.

One rooted in Jesus’ love for you, and for those you love.

We’ll take six weeks, three days a week, and we’ll study and grow together, and heal, and pack in healthy and God-filled tools to become the woman, and mom we want to be.

Will you join me?


The book we’ll use is The Mom I Want to Be: Rising Above Your Past to Give Your Kids a Great Future.

You can also buy it through the Proverbs 31 Ministries shop where every dime goes right back into the ministry.

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I can’t wait to see what God has in store for us. 

I’ll see you next Wednesday! Between now and then I’m praying and preparing for our study together.

Share with me what you hope to gain. What you have been asking God to do in you personally, or in your family tree.




I can’t forgive someone who hasn’t said sorry

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Dear Suzie, you say that forgiveness is the foundation of healing, but what if the person doesn’t deserve forgiveness?

I can’t forgive someone who isn’t sorry and who continues to hurt people. I want to heal, but if forgiving is part of that, then I don’t know what to do.

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Comparison is good for no one


A few years ago a fellow author was receiving the full treatment: publicity tours, media, a huge print run out of the gate.

I was excited for her.

I also felt a twinge.

What if I had that opportunity?

Immediately I sensed the Holy Spirit gently pull me out of the path called comparison. [Read more...]