#live free: You don’t have to be braver than you feel


I received some news last month. I didn’t see it coming and I didn’t know what to do with it.

S0, I just kept on going.

Isn’t it funny how we do that?

A friend and I were walking in the morning and the news finally spilled from my lips.

She stopped and took me by the shoulders. “What are we doing? We need to pray!”

I loved that I didn’t have to be brave for her. That I didn’t have to put on a good front. It was okay to say that I didn’t see this news coming, and that it was bigger than me.

Later that week I sat on the floor. Sun spilled through the windows. I put my head in my hands and I was honest with God, just as I had been with my friend.

Lord, I don’t have the right words to say.

I don’t feel brave today. Maybe tomorrow I will, but for now I’m coming up empty.

It was okay to allow Him to be strong for me.

To live free: You don’t have to be braver than you feel. 

You don’t have to have all the answers.

God knows what we need before we even ask.

I don’t know about you, but that makes His presence a place I run to, rather than away from when life gets big.

Is your bravery running low today? Climb into that safe place where you don’t need words.



To live free: Get real with God and with others

Scripture: Here’s what I want you to do: Find a quiet, secluded place so you won’t be tempted to role-play before God. Just be there as simply and honestly as you can manage. The focus will shift from you to God, and you will begin to sense his grace. .Matthew 6:6-10a (The Message)

Today: Maybe you’ve been avoiding God because you think you should have answers, or at least the words to share your need. Sit in His presence. He knows what you need before you even ask.


#livefree: Let God have the reins


Have you ever felt that God wasn’t moving as fast as you wanted?

You’ve prayed. You’ve asked God to move mountains. Yet everything seems the same.

That’s when I usually want to take up the reins.

I have goals. I have dreams! I know what I want and I want it now. . .

I.  .  .

But what does God want in this waiting time?

What work is taking place in my heart as I trust, as I turn to Him rather than my “gotta-happen-in-XXX-amount-of-time” plan book?

Let’s be honest. No one loves that trust and growth time.



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Live Free: The art of the pause


Don’t you love our reflexes?  They help us react in a second.

Maybe it sends a signal to hit the brakes when a dog leaps into view on a dark road. Or it makes you witty and sharp in conversation with friends.

But it can also leave us with regrets when we whip out that retort or we act in haste.

Paul makes a confession in Romans 7:14.

“So the trouble is not with the law,” he says, “for it is spiritual and good. The trouble is with me, for I am all too human, a slave to sin.”

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Bless my home, Lord




Today, as we end this six week study, I want to invite you to do something that might seem. . . well, out of the ordinary.

I want to invite you to bless your home.

Sounds odd, right?

And yet our homes are sacred places. 

It’s where memories are made. Where mistakes are worked through. It’s filled with people that we love, and relationships that matter more than anything else on earth.

It’s the one place we can be ourselves totally.

It’s the place where our children grow up and come back to.

What might it look like to bless your home?

Take a few moments and walk into each room. Picture the people who live there. Thank God for each of them. Call them out by name. Ask God to fill each space with His presence, His wisdom, His joy.

This is my kitchen table. I thanked God for the sticky fingerprints of my grandbabies. For the women who gather around it each Wednesday. For the food we are given. I asked God to bless our conversations and laughter around this table, and called out the names of those who sit in the chairs.


Go to the next room. . . and then the next.

Pray that your home is a place where your children feel safe and loved. Ask God to use your home and each family member for His glory.

If your home has been a place of conflict, offer up that up too. Invite God into those harder places. Ask Him to bless it with peace, with words that lift up and encourage and work through conflict.

If you sense God asking you to linger, perhaps at your kitchen table where conversations are held, or at the foot of your child’s bed, listen.






It’s time for change


You know it’s time to change.

But it’s hard. 

What if you fail?

What if you don’t measure up?

What if. . .  

There’s a thousand what-ifs as we unpack the past and walk into the new.

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Week #6 – Unpack your parenting baggage


We were driving down the highway.

I saw a shoe. Then a couple of shirts.

A sock.

Scattered for nearly a mile where all kinds of clothing, a second shoe, a few pair of unmentionables.

Finally, an overturned, half-open, battered and broken piece of luggage resting on the side of the road.

That scattering of clothes down the highway reminds me of my journey to unpack the past. 

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What I hope they remember


A few years ago I attended a funeral. As each grown child spoke about their mother, I leaned in to listen. I’m fascinated by the memories left on a child’s heart, and I waited to hear their special memories.

One recounted how his mom always looked nice. “Her purse and shoes always matched,” he said. “She never went out of the house without her lipstick.”

Another told a story of how their home was perfect. “Not a thing out of place,” he shared.

The last child said that every time she smelled PineSol™ it reminded her of her mother.

Later, as I drove home, I wondered what my children’s memories would one day be. . . and I prayed it wouldn’t be my shoes, my perfect home, or the sweet smell of PineSol™.

Hear my heart, it’s not that I’m saying this wasn’t a great mom, because she most likely was amazing.

It’s just sometimes we can get so tangled up in what we do as moms, that we might forget the power of the littlest things that create lasting memories, like: [Read more...]

Start your work in me, Lord

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Has it been one of those days?

You know, a discouraging day.

A day when you reacted different than you promised you would.

A day when you considered, if only for a moment, to stop trying.

A day when you love your kids, but you don’t like them very much.

Am I the only one who has had one of those days?

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