One beautiful new friend asked this:
I always read my devotional from Christianity.com, but this one touched me. My daughter and I have a problem
getting along. I am always wrong and she will go for long periods without talking or seeing me. I pray about it and it hurts me deeply.
Please pray for us.
I love my girls and I can only imagine how difficult it would be if they stopped talking with me. My heart goes out to you.
You didn’t share their ages, or what led to the separation, but may I suggest a couple of things?
One, begin to pray for your girls and your relationship. Take this to God and lay it on the table before Him. He loves you, he loves your family. Invite him into the healing process.
Two, send a note to your girls affirming your love for them. A note is non-threatening. Let them know what you see in them that is good, that is precious to you as their mom.
Three, when the time is right invite each of them separately to visit with you. Let them know that you want to rebuild your relationship with them, to start fresh. Ask them to share from their heart what they believe has separated the relationship.
And listen. All the way to the end. Don’t get defensive. Don’t try to persuade them to see it from your perspective. You may not agree, but at least the issues will be in the open.
After you listen, affirm your love for them.
Then take it all back to your Heavenly Father. Take an honest look at it. What can you learn from it? What needs to be changed? How can you grow through it?
But what if it’s all their fault?
If that’s true, then let’s talk some more. I’m not a counselor and I won’t pretend to have all the answers, but what I do know is that most relationships are affected by all involved. Even after my mom grew as a person, I struggled to see her as she was now (not perfect, but growing and reaching out). That was something that only I could work on.
Stay in touch, okay? I am praying for you right now.