21 years. Is that even possible?
When I found out I had cancer, I was 31 years old, just days shy of 32. My beautiful children were young. My marriage was 12 years young, and I had planned on growing old with this guy.
If you came over from Encouragement for Today, I’m so glad you are here to celebrate with me. Not just 21 years of survival, which is a gift of proportion that I cannot repay, but for the do-overs we get in life with people.
I shared my story of dealing with Jack* and how this gruff-on-the-surface guy became a friend against all odds. It’s a story I first shared in Chicken Soup for the Survivor’s Soul over 10 years ago. I can’t begin to tell you how delighted I was to write the words 21 years as I shared this story again.
You see, in the past 11 years since this story first ran, I’ve had more opportunities to forgive and heal relationships, or to change me when another person isn’t willing or able to change.
Forgiving has become a way to live free.
Free of emotional entaglements that keep me stuck.
Free of trying to fix other people.
Free to move forward regardless of others choices or response to forgiveness.
Is it easy to forgive?
I wish I could say that it is, but when we understand the power of forgiveness, as well as what forgiveness is not, we can’t help but respond to this gift we both receive and give to others.
To celebrate my 21 years of loving my husband more (who is going gray and I love it because it means I am getting to grow older with him), of watching my children grow up to become the beautiful adults that they are, and my grandbabies who bring me joy, I am giving away two copies of my new book The Unburdended Heart: Finding the Freedom of Forgiveness. It’s release is in a couple of months, but I’ll preorder it for you and it will arrive in your mailbox as soon as it is released!
Just leave a comment today. Share with me your story of second chances, whether with survival or a second chance with a friend.