Designate a specific time and place to express your grief with Jesus
Suzie, where’s your safe place?
My friend Angye asked that just yesterday.
It’s when my hands are in the soil. There’s something about gardening, or nature itself that calms me.
Find your safe place. I know it’s hard, but carve it out in your schedule and give it honor. In that safe place, express your thoughts to your Savior. Let Him weep with you. Let Him show you that He is with you.
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” (Matt. 11:28-29 NIV)
Write your thoughts in a journal
It may feel like you’re not healing. Journaling helps you look back. You can see where the weight fell off. Where pain turned to surprising joy. Where you laughed again. Where the memories became sweet rather than sorrowful.
It also allows you to write down what you might not be able to say out loud, or to express thoughts that you feel but aren’t comfortable saying to others.
“I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid.” (John 14:27, NLT)
Begin to note the times you sensed God with you, or any insights that come over time
Celebrate the moments the mourning eases and you sense God beside you.
Or like Jennifer (see yesterday’s post) where you realize that the widow and you have integrated and you are no longer fragile, or that has turned into compassion for others who are fragile.
In scripture, Abraham often marked places where God showed up by building an altar. In a sense, you are doing the same thing:
This is where inner anguish was replaced with inner peace.
This is where I laughed again.
This is where the memory of my loved one brought a smile rather than pain.
He gives power to the weak and strength to the powerless. Even youths will become weak and tired, and young men will fall in exhaustion. But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.” (Isa. 40:29-31, NLT)