Stay down, or get up?


Wow, I just screwed up in a huge way.

What do you do when you fail? We really have only two options. . . we can stay down or we can get up.

But what does that look like?

Take an honest look at the experience.

What happened?

At what point did things go wrong?

Did you take it personal?

Did you place yourself in their shoes?

Did hurt dictate your response?


Is there anything you could have done differently?

Is there a trigger that you need to be aware of? {It’s okay to admit that “this gets me every time” and to get to the bottom of the real issue.}

What is a healthier response when that switch is flipped?

Did your response move it into the resolution zone or retaliation zone?

Getting back up. . . 

Do amends need to be made?

Are you willing to learn from it and celebrate that growth?

Are you offering a fresh slate for that person, and for yourself?

Have you spent time with a God who loves you like crazy to talk about what happened?

Have you sought wisdom?

There has never been the slightest doubt in my mind that the God who started this great work in you would keep at it and bring it to a flourishing finish on the very day Christ Jesus appears. Philippians 1:6 (The Message)

Sweet friend, I know it hurts when you mess up, but you’re growing. You realize what you did and you want better for you, and for those you care about.

Don’t stay down. Don’t give up. You’re a beautiful work in progress (so am I), so get up and grow. Let God lead you up, up, up into healing and wholeness and the desires of your heart.



Thank you to Rebecca Drake of Bdrakephotography for use of this beautiful picture! Please check out Rebecca’s photography.



  1. It never seems to fail when I am having a bad day or just go through a difficult experience all I have to do is check my e-mail and there you are…with thoughts that lift me up! You are definitely a “Woman of God” and love others and try to share His word, beliefs and keep us willing to go on in spite of whatever difficulties I may have in my life.

    I almost always end up sharing what I have read that you shared with others and they always thank me for doing so. I hope they also subscribe to your web site when I suggest that as a possible help. Or books that you write or others that write for Proverbs 31. God Bless each of you every day. Mary K. IL

  2. I love all you gals, God so speaks to me through you!!!!!!!
    Blessings Anna

  3. Thank you Suzie, this is what God needed to share with me today through you. Someone close to me has managed to wound my heart yet once again and I am left feeling vulnerable and angry at myself for trusting it to be different. While it’s easy to justify my hurt and allow myself to become bitter and resentful, God reminds me of His love for me and the importance of my response. I need to get up and keep my eyes on Him. Thank you, may you be blessed today knowing God used your words to soothe my heart:)

  4. “Get up and grow.” I l ove that Suzie. Such good encouragement for when we mess things up. (And I do it often.) I like the idea of asking questions of ourselves rather than just a blanket “I messed up.”

  5. Thank you for the encouraging words. Thank you Jesus!

  6. Nahum 1:7 – – one of my favorite verses. He is near, when i’m hurt, when I mess up.
    I know we have all failed – sometimes I do a great job at it. and then I am humbled as I remember who i am . Thank you for the reminder that He is there . . to forgive, to comfort, to teach, to give strength to get up.

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