Healing is like a butterfly.
“Healing is like a butterly,” the speaker said. “It’s such a beautiful process.”
The woman across from her raised one eyebrow.
“Not for me,” she said. “Healing was like a cleanup after Hurricane Katrina.”
She explained that she had made poor choices for years. Those choices left a trail of brokenness, not only in her life, but also her children and parents. Co-workers. Friends.
When she became a believer, her faith led to healing.
Healing led her to transformation.
Transformation led to clean-up.
The speaker was right. Healing is beautiful.
Yet for this woman, when she had to face the trail of brokenness she left behind, it didn’t feel like a “butterfly.” It felt like a post-hurricane event.
She had to face what her choices had done to her children. She had to stand in front of people who loved her but didn’t trust her. She had to say she was sorry, but also begin the process of rebuilding.
Rebuild her credit. Rebuild her work history. Rebuild her life. Rebuild trust.
On Day #16 of Believing Big When You Feel Small, let’s talk about faith when healing feels like a hurricane.
This is faith that asks you to face the mess, do the hard work, and yet hold tight to the truth that God loves you fiercely in the midst of it.
Face the mess.
Why might this matter?
An acquaintance told me the story of how she had a drinking problem when her children were growing up. She often drank until she blacked out. While she didn’t remember what happened during those blackouts, her children still did.
Faith might ask you to face the mess, but God will meet you in the midst of it. #livefree https://ctt.ec/zrw58+
She became a believer after her children were grown, and her life was changed. One day her daughter was trying to tell her how she felt about her childhood, and her mother stopped the conversation.
“She should forgive me,” she said. “I’m not the same person. Why should we talk about it at all?”
She’s right, and perhaps she’s also wrong.
God had forgiven her. Her sins were cast as far as the East is from the West. The mess had been cleaned in her own life, but the mess she left in her daughter’s heart still lingered.
Facing the mess was hard for both mother and daughter, but when she allowed her daughter to share her hurt, it gave her the opportunity to say she was sorry — and she was. It wasn’t easy to hear how she hurt her daughter’s heart, or to re-experience some of those old feelings. It wasn’t easy to hold back excuses or not to justify her behavior, but as she faced the mess she caused in her daughter’s heart, it opened a new door.
The old had a chance to heal so the new could begin.
How does faith play out in this?
You might not identify with this mother’s story. You’ve not experienced addiction. Yet you realize that your words, or your actions, caused grief or pain to others.
Maybe it was 10 years ago. Maybe it was 10 minutes ago.
It’s not the details of this story that matter, but this truth:
Confidence in God’s love for us allows us to face the mess we caused.
When we admit our wrongs of the past, we are also admitting God’s mercy in the present.
We dip into the healing God is pouring over our own hearts and share a measure with others.
Faith, faith, faith! These are living proclamations of faith.
When we admit our wrong of the past, we also admit His mercy in the present. #livefree https://ctt.ec/74QpS+
When we face the mess we left behind, we anticipate what God can do with that act of faith.
What might this look like? We’ll talk more about that tomorrow.
Day #16 of 21 Days to Believing Big When You Feel Small
Q: God shows us great mercy. How does facing our messes show mercy to those who we may have harmed?
Q: How might it take faith to examine our past wrongs toward another person/people?
- Read Psalm 147:3. You are not responsible to heal another’s wounds, for that is God’s job. How might he use you in that process?
- Read Galatians 6:9. As we begin the clean-up process, faith leads to a harvest. What might that look like in your situation?
Q: Facing our messes might mean that hard work is ahead, but what might that also begin in your heart?
Tomorrow we’ll look at the other aspects of this faith journey — doing the hard work, and holding tight to the truth that God loves you.