I used to struggle with taking a compliment.
My daughters once accused me of being the worst.
“Mom, you look pretty today,” one might say.
I deflected: “Even with this crazy hair?”
Another might tell me that she loved how a shirt looked, and I’d say, “Don’t you love how it covers up my muffin top?”
Some might say that I was being self effacing. Humorous. Humble. I wasn’t any of those things. I simply didn’t know how to accept a compliment.
There’s a lot of reasons that can happen. We don’t believe it. We don’t want to be vain. Regardless of the reason, we need to listen to ourselves.
My inability to say a simple thank you to a sincere compliment sent a message to my two beautiful daughters. I bounced back their kindness with a negative. I sent a message that if things aren’t perfect, you can’t accept a compliment.
My daughters didn’t let me get away with it. In fact, they let me know it was kind of rude.
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