When you feel abandoned, it messes with you
Micah’s dad was a pastor and he left the church one day, leaving a note on the desk. He also left his daughter that day, and didn’t come back.
When someone you love abandons you, it can mess with your view of God.
It can lie dormant for years and then crop up when you are loving your own children.
Abandonment isn’t always about a dad who checks out. It can be loss. It can be problems stacking up and you want to give up, abandoning that dream.
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Today I want to introduce you to my friend, Micah. She’s a woman who is strong, who loves others well, and who discovered how to anchor in and live free.
Take a moment and listen. If it doesn’t play for you here, then check it out on my YouTube channel.
3 things to help you anchor in
In this interview, Micah shared three things to help us live anchored in.
- Dealing with the abandonment is a strong move on your part. Don’t push it down.
- We open up our past, trials, and trauma to God and we are emptied of those, which allows us to be filled with His love, healing power, and direction.
- Freedom and deliverance takes time, and that’s OK.
Micah is giving away one copy of Anchored In: Living a Power-Full Life in a Problem Filled World to one of you this week. Just leave a comment, a prayer request, or your thoughts below.
Meet Micah Maddox
I hope you’ll spend more time with Micah.
Check out her blog.
Check out this amazing book, Anchored In: Living a Power-Full Life in a Problem Filled World.
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I so want and need to anchor in to God. Thank you for sharing your story. I would love to win a copy of your book.
Thank you for your work. I prayed the prayer of deliverance from the anxiety that haunts me around my experiences with various forms of abandonment.
Lord, I life Jo up for healing of her anxiety. Take away the anxiety and replace it with your peace and joy. Meet her every need. In Jesus name, I pray, Amen
I am reading this for the first time today. I need to live free and I’m not doing that. My faith has definitely grown but I still get nervous. My life has been full of pain and people who say they love me then hurt me. I’ve been hurt by men in so many ways abusivly. I’m suppose to sign on a double wide this week but the girl is sick. I have until October 31 and I will be homeless. I have four kids and a grandson on the way from my oldest son. My husband is in prison and suppose to come home sept 2018 and I and my younger kids need him. His and my family abandoned us. I found God in 2013 and have been hurt so much by my new friends . I tHank God for the ones he placed in my life that kept me headed toward him . If you wouldn’t mind praying for peace and strength I would be very thankful.
Lord, I am lifting Cathy up to you today for peace and strength. Heal the woman who is involved with the purchase of the double wide for Cathy and her family. Lord provide every need they may have, bless them, as they draw nearer to you. Please, Lord, put Godly, caring woman in Cathy’s life and also Lord, I boldly ask that you put a strong Godly prison ministry man in her husbands life. In this year before he is released, transform hin into a Godly man that will be able to guide and care for his family. Lord as you work on each of them make their marriage strong anf held together by a love for you. In Jesus name Amen.
Father, hold Cathy close today. Send incredible christian women her way who will encourage her and walk this journey with her. I pray for provision for her family, for peace, assurance, and wisdom as they look into the future. In Jesus name.
Thank you very much for the video and for writing the book.My dad was at home,but he struggled with relating to me. I was the oldest,my brother in the middle,and then my baby sister.I came during my parents first year of marriage which my dad evidently had a hard time accepting.. He always favored my little sister especially during our childhood and teenage years and even the very early adulthood years. I never really felt sure of his love and it did cause major hurting,but I think towards the end of his life I realized that he really did care and love me. He was with me in the later seventies when my husband had 2 major surgeries and in 1980 he was at the hospital when my husband’s & mine’s first daughter was born & there are many other times. We never talked about it,but as I look at it now,his actions spoke louder than words. As Suzie said this has had caused me not to be as secure with my relationship with our Abba,Daddy. Throughout the years, God has enabled me to to better know,feel,and realize that He loves me unconditionally,and every now then the insecurity props back up and the Lord as our heavenly Father washes it away.Thanks for your prayer. Writing this comment has been very helpful. The Lord’s blessings to you both and your families.
Just adore Micah’s book and can’t recommend it enough! I breezed through it in a week, only reading at night for a hour or two! Her message is captivating, real, and powerful. Enough to lift any woman’s weary soul!
Abandonment is such a difficult issue. My husband of 26 years walked out in February and so I have definitely been dealing with feelings of abandonment as well as my 17-year-old son. Please pray that I can continue to encourage him in his faith that his Heavenly Father will never abandon him. I enjoyed your interview.
Denis, Praying that God will draw you closer to Him during this very difficult time and that your son will see God’s light shining through you despite your circumstances. I pray that God will heal the broken places in your heart and your son’s heart and guide you day by day. Lord, please fill Laura with your joy, your peace and you love, In Jesus name, Amen!
Denise, praying for you, you son and your hearts.
Struggling in everything right now. Depression and anxiety are frequent companions. So hard not to give up and God is always so distant. I can’t seem to get to a place where he feels even remotely close. I’m so lonely but also very scared of people and having a relationship. I’ve been burned too many times by people and I just don’t know how to do it in the first place.
Oh Laura I feel you and I’m so sorry never give up . God loves you keep going keep moving through the storm he is there holding your hand all the way
Laura, I pray that God will bring you comfort and peace.
Oh my….abandonment comes in so many forms. For me it is a mother who encouraged me to abort my child at 17 by giving me no hope for help should I keep the baby, and by offering parental permission for an abortion during a time when it was a requirement for women under 18. The hurt of abandonment continues to this day each time I look to her for praise or each time she makes it obvious to me that everyone else comes before me. I’m honestly not even certain that she’s conscious of how many times she makes my sister and I feel abandoned. My sister and I have both turned to God for our acceptance and love needs, but I still wrestle with emptying myself of “me” so that He can fill me with Him. Thank you for writing on this issue. I believe there are just millions of women out there whose adult lives are tormented by some type of abandonment issue. I know that whomever wins the copy of your book will be blessed, and I pray it will lead them closer to God and deliverance from their struggle.
Oh, Cindy. Bless you for your transparency. God will bring healing to you, sweet friend. Keep looking to HIM! Praying you feel Him close today.
I often sing “Hold On Just A Little While Longer, Everything is Gonna Be Alright.” Through difficult times and good times, I am learning to be thankful in all circumstances. I would love to read “Anchored In” because I am growing in God’s Word. His Word is a lamp unto my feet.
My father was an alcoholic. My mother wrestled with pills and strugggled to survive the never ending onslaught of hate and discontent in our dysfunctional family. All 3 of us kids were abandoned and love starved as our parents dove into their vices and were emotionally drained of “life”. We kids learned early on how to survive and had no clue what real love looked like. It was carried into out adult years and my family no longer talks…unless it’s at one another. Each one struggling to hold onto perceived control so as to not let the dam burst open. I thank God everyday for bringing us through. I’m so thankful He came and shows me how to love and how much I’m loved. I have hope that one day my family will be reconciled and also see how much Jesus loves them too. Thank you for writing your book Micah. Blessings!
Believing with you for reconciliation and beauty from ashes, Trish!
Micah, I’m so excited for you — what a brave step of faith it is to share your story and to send your words out into the world. Praying for you!
I’d love a prayer for a complete healing from a recent relationship (where someone decided that he doesn’t way to continue it any more and checked out). My biggest desire is complete healing from this experience with no strings attached to the past and no baggage. For complete healing of my heart, soul, thoughts and for moving on into the future brave and excited for what God may have in store (instead of fearful to trust and open up for someone again). Thank you for sharing your story and encouragement.
Marisha, So sorry for the painful end of this relationship. Lord, heal Marisha of the heart pain and mistrust that has happened due to the end of her relationship. Comfort her, heal her, draw her close to you as she walks through this painful time. Lord, I know you have the best man in mind for Marisha, I pray that she seek you, during this time, and wait upon you to show her this man, Don’t let her rush into something until your healing has occurred. Prepare her to be the perfect person for the man you have chosen for her. I know we are never going to be perfect but when the right person comes along we are perfect for each other-help her to know and have peace during the healing/waiting time, In Jesus name I pray, Amen
Father, heal Marisha’s heart. You are the Source of that healing. No person, no matter how wonderful they are, is big enough to carry this or fill that gap, but You do. It’s your speciality, and we stand with Marisha today as she receives that Source, overflowing, filling her up and taking up residence in those wounds. In Jesus name amen.
Wonderful interview Susie and Micah. You’ve touched my heart. My Dad didn’t abandon me, but rather my Mom. Though God has healed my wounds over the years (and continues to sooth when those ugly feelings rear their heads every now and again), there are so many women desperate to know where to even begin. Congratulations on your launch Micah. Let His healing flow like a mighty river as women pour over every word!!
Growing up not knowing my father led to alot of insecurity issues that I tried dealing with in all the wrong ways. It’s taken 50 years to get to the point where I can acknowledge that God is the only Father I need and I am worthy because He made me. Thank you for this today!
💕 Love you sweet friend!!
I have spent the last 7 years in recovery for a 20 year addiction to drugs and alcohol and trying to understand how God could love me when my parents abandoned me as a 5 year old. It is a very hard realization to come to. Even though in my head I know He is always there for me getting my heart to feel it is much harder. He is our Father but when you don’t have parents it’s hard to imagine that. It has always been a hard discussion for me to have.
Sara, Praying that God will reveal himself to you and you will know how much he truly loves you and has protcted you through your journey of abandonment and addiction. I pray that he guides your steps and actions and that one day he will empower you to use the hard times of your life to help another going through the same thing. I pray he heals your heart and takes away any desire for things that will not benefit you or your body. I pray that your eyes be opened to all he has for you, his beloved child. In Jesus name I pray, Amen
Oh, Sara. I can see how envisioning God as a Father would be difficult for you. You are not alone… so many struggle w/ the same. Look up. Keep pressing in. Read His word. Like Micah said in the video, one day you will find healing. It may come in the oddest of moments or ways, but it will come. Trust me, God does not fail.
Lord, I ask that you would wrap Sara up in your loving arms today. Show her your love, your acceptance, and her worth in you. Surround her with others who will stand with her and walk with her through this healing journey. In Jesus name!
Thank you–my heavy heart needed that gentle encouragement in life as a whole –but more so in my marriage as I ask the Lord to intervene.
Carrie, Lifting you and your husband up to the Lord for healing and for God to move in a mighty way in your marriage. In Jesus name I pray, Amen
Lord, move mightily in Carrie’s marriage right in this moment. Show up big in ways they couldn’t even imagine. In Jesus name!
Lord, we lift of Carrie, her husband, and their marriage. We pray you would do the work only you can do. bring healing, wholeness, freedom, deliverance, and unity. Thank you that we can bring these things to you. In Jesus Name. Amen!
My prayer request is for the people of Texas and Florida – I have friends and family in both places, and pray that the Lord God will protect them and keep them safe from the hurricanes, and give some relief to those who have been devastated.
Dori, Joining you in prayer for Texas and Florida. Lord comfort them as they rebuild their lives and replace things that were lost. I ask you Lord, to draw them closer to you for comfort and peace in such a time of turmoil. Help us Lord, to be your hands and feet during these natural disasters. In Jesus name I pray, Amen
We will be praying for your friends and family, Dori! xoxoxo
I am praying with you for those in Texas and Florida.
Such a timely message and book for my life, my hurts RIGHT now. Thank you Lord, for speaking to me thru Suzie and Micah!
Congratulations Micah on your book. My prayer today is that the book will touch lives all over this World, and I, too, have been praying for Texas and Florida. It’s been heartbreaking watching friends in Texas who have lost everything.
We’ve been going through a lot this year. Our church (we are pastors) lost a large number of members, they were all military and it was time for them to move to their next assignments. It’s hard losing people in a church, but it’s also hard losing people you consider family. Our oldest left for college. My grandparents have both been battling cancer. It’s just been tough. I love Micah’s heart and all that she shares.
Oh, Jenifer, I’m so sorry. Praying for God to be Peace and Fortress for you today, in Jesus name.
Beautiful interview! You’re so right, too! Until we deal with our hurts, whatever they may be, we give them the power to hold our hearts hostage. Thanks for this encouragment! May God use the words He inspired you to write to help His girls live free! Blessings!
Such a beautiful truth. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for sharing a bit more about your heart behind Anchored In! Great interview : ) I think you both are so right about how we often don’t deal with childhood issues until adulthood. Thankful God will use this book to meet adult women where they are at in the depths of trials- including ones long “past!”
This was a powerful video, Micah and Suzie. I can relate perfectly as a child of divorce from the age of five. My relationships with my original family are all strained and distant now, 35 years later. But I have accepted them by grieving the pain and losses. I have found the love, peace, and affirmation I need in my relationship with God. I’m also filling in the relational gaps with other Christians. You are right–it’s hard to forgive and let go, but peace can be found in the process. I’m praying blessings on you as your book reaches the women seeking healing.
Please pray for all suicide loss left behinders, including me . We have felt the hard cold sting of rejection and abandonment. Everything before and after is now seared in the flames of tragedy yet we are not unworthy of His redemptive healing!
Oh, honey. I’m so sorry. May you feel His arms around you today.
Praying for you, Mary and those affected by your situation. I pray that God’s presence and never ending love and touch and heal your heart.
I can’t imagine. I really can’t, but I can pray. Father, for those who are left behind when someone takes their life, hold them close. Walk with them daily. We reach for the hem of your garment, because this loss isn’t something that can be fixed, but you can walk with each of your children through it. In Jesus’ name.
Let me begin by saying how fun it was to watch the two of you this morning! Suzie and Micah, I know we don’t personally know each other, but the two of you have inspired me so much as someone who is striving to answer the call to write. You, both, have encouraged me as I have come alongside of you in your launches and through discussions on Compel. Thank you, BOTH, so much!
Several years ago, when I was struggling with infertility and going through my 5 miscarriages, I SO wish I would have had this book. So much of Micah’s message would have met me right where I was in that moment. I am not in the midst of a specific struggle in the moment, but like Micah said, if we are in a struggle ourselves, we definitely know someone who is. I can already think of a number of people who I want to give this book to!
Micah, God is going to use this book to minister to so many women in our hurting world! Thank you for your heart and your willingness to answer God’s call to write!
So wonderful to have you in COMPEL! Praise the Lord for bringing you through what must have been such a difficult time. Perhaps that will be a book you will write one day, to inspire others the way Micah has through her trials. God is good! xoxoxo
Please pray for me to receive direction, self confidence and for my health… I dealt with a lot of pain and suffering throughout my childhood years. Mostly from my father and his family. He was physically, emotionally and sexual abusive. I feel that this has played a major role in the choices I made as a teenager which have affected me since. I became pregnant at the age of 17 and even though I married the father, my high school sweetheart, things have not been any easier. We’ve had a lot of ups and downs and have come close to divorce a few times. I have a hard time trusting others, especially men, since I have been hurt by several. And my confidence has hit rock bottom. I suffer from depression and my health continues to go down hill. I recently joined a lcoal women’s bible study group and have been began working out and it’s seems to be helping some but most days I can’t find the motivation to even get out of bed. I appreciate and and all prayers.
Heavenly Father, wrap your love around Amanda and remind her that she is acceptable and completely loved by You. May your Holy Spirit fill her with confidence, not by worldly standards, but knowing that she is a child of the Most High and created in Your very image. Show her the beautiful purposes you have planned for her life, and have even done already. Help her to find women who can listen, share, counsel, guide, and lift her up with friendship and love. Thank you, Father, “therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. (Rom. 8:1)” Amen! xoxoxo
Praying for you Amanda that God will heal your heart and make you whole in the love of Jesus. Hold her tight and lead her each moment of her days.
Lord, lift Amanda from this place of hopelessness. There is hope in you. There is hope for a future. Give her courage and strength to meet this day, and each hour, with your help. Her past is not her identity. It’s not the complete story. It’s a chapter, one you can redeem and long to redeem and are redeeming as she reaches for you. We reach with her today, Father, holding up her arms and hands. In Jesus’ name.
Great article.thank ufor giving us a chance to win.
Great article.thank ufor giving us a chance to win.
Thank you for this giveaway!!
super, mrs. micah – God is redeeming your locust time for His glory and it’s a party all the way around – He’s proud as punch (as I am!) I have two friends who feel abandoned – no, three – pray that I can continue to encourage and remind them of God’s filling and great love. thanks.
Praying that you will share God’s love with your friends and fill them and encourage them that God is there for them and loves them sooo much.
I was abandoned by my ex-husband for another woman who he had gotten pregnant. I felt so alone and even suicidal back then, we made it through and my children are grown now but the feelings all come back when I am faced with him at grand children’s birthday parties. The same old feelings of rejection and humiliation come right back. I know it is the devil trying to get a foot hold but it is like reliving the nightmare over and over again…
Lord, this abandonment left a hole in your daughter’s heart, one that you promise to feel. You came to heal the brokenhearted, and that includes Vickie. She is not the product of someone else’s broken choices, but the fruit of your choice to willingly walk to the cross because you loved each of us so much. Lord, heal these wounds. Remind her of her value and worth, not tied to another person or their sin, but to the words you speak over her heart: beloved, wanted, chosen. Today we stand with our sister as she looks toward the future, putting the past firmly in its place. You have so much for her, Father. As you heal her, may she be a driving force in loving others in your name. Amen.
Thank you for this giveaway. I have been having a difficult time lately staying consistent in my walk with God. Would love to win a copy of this book.
I was abandoned by my father when I was 5. I have never gotten over this rejection. It colors my life still.
Father, thank you for a new page written in Patricia’s life. I know what it is to have a biological father not show up, but I also know that you are greater. You fill those gaps. You show us how to love others well, even when we missed the love of an earthly bio father. You show us how to soak in the love that we do have, while allowing you to be Abba Daddy in other areas. Thank you for that, Lord. Thank you for Patricia and for making the absence of her father one chapter in her story, rather than the entire theme. She’s loved by you greatly. In Jesus’ name. Thank you for her courage in sharing so honestly, and that she reaches for you and you reach back.
Boy, I would love to read this book. Rejection and abandonment are big wounds in my life.
Thank you for writing this book. I never realized that abandonment also includes the death of a parent at ages 6, 8, 10 and 12. Would love to win this book.
I didn’t realize how much I am hurting from feeling abondoned by my Father. Because of this I have a hard time relating to my Heavenly Father. Thank you for your encouragement today.
Would love to read this book! I was abandoned by my mother at the age of 3. As an adult I struggle with feelings of self-worth.
I would love to read your book. I try to live in a pretend world as if I never was abandoned but I was. Some of that has been reconciled and forgiven yet a hole still remains. One can forgive but you can not make up for missing years. God is good though he himself can fill that hole with his love.
Loved hearing you and suzie chat.
I’ve heard how wonderful this book is and can’t wait to read it!
Hi! Thanks for sharing this – these thoughts and this book. As I listen to this, I am thinking of someone not only physically
abandoned by someone, but those who have a loved one physically present, but not present emotionally – not involved in daily life,
or involved in a very negative, scary way – not necessarily daily, but too often. Do you know what I mean? That could bring a sense
of abandonment, don’t you think?