Lisa P. is the winner of When Women Walk in Faith by Lysa Terkeurst.
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How big is God? Is He only as big as our last answered prayer? Or is He big enough to still be called Lord when life is hard, or when the answer we are receiving seems less than what we hoped for?
In Rob Bell’s Nooma study, Open, he says that we experience Christ best when our lives become a posture of prayer. Pressing in to God regardless of where we are, what is taking place, how we feel, or even if we are walking through the hardest parts of our existence. But that same posture in the joyous seasons of our lives. In the smallest moments of joy.
What happens when that takes place? [Read more…]
I arrived in Dallas on Tuesday and it’s been awesome. There’s been some funny moments like when my grown daughters left the family bathroom with Elle, but left me in the stall alone. The door unlocked. . .and another family came in. Surprise, surprise to them when I emerged from the bathroom stall. My girls were standing at the foot of the stairs at IKEA, their hands over their mouths, laughing hysterically. Somehow they thought if they watched the door from a distance they would have time to let someone know it was occupied. Um, no. That doesn’t work.
And then there was baby swim time with sweet Elle. It’s a little community class where babies get over their fear of the water and spend fun time with their moms.
Right now as I type I’m preparing for an interview with Carol Davis, WMIT, Asheville, NC 106.9 The Light. I’ll talk with her this afternoon about The Mom I Want to Be: Rising Above Your Past to Give Your Kids a Great Future. [Read more…]
1. In what ways has the issue of forgiveness been confusing to you in the past?
2. As Suzie described both the Webster’s definition and the Biblical definitions of forgiveness, how did that change your definition of forgiveness?
3. What is your natural reaction to hurt?
4. Create a prayer, asking God to help you with a different approach based on this teaching.
5. If no one else changes, and yet you do, is that enough? Why or why not?
6. Why is this issue of forgiveness so important to God (this is a topic that is prevalent in both Scripture and in the teachings of Jesus himself)?
This note dropped in my in-box.
I read your devotional on Christianity.com, but this one touched me. My daughter and I have a problem getting along. I am always wrong and she will go for long periods without talking or seeing me. I pray about it and it hurts me deeply. Please pray for us.
A hurting mama
This was my response.
I can only imagine how difficult this is for you. My mama’s heart goes out to you. You didn’t share their ages, or what led to the separation, but I hear your heart. I don’t have all the answers. No one does. No one has walked in your shoes.
It’s in times like these that we feel helpless, but there are some things we can do.
One, pray for your girls and your relationship. Take this to God and lay it on the table before Him. He loves you, he loves your family. As you do this, you invite him into the healing process. You are trusting that God will meet you right where you are.
Second, send a note to your girls affirming your love for them. Sometimes we just don’t have the words. A note is non-threatening. Let them know what you see in them that is good. Tell them that they are loved. Invite them to talk with you, whatever and whenever that might be.
Maybe, there are unresolved issues. Things you don’t know. Things you don’t see. Things that they’ve never been able to tell you. Sending this note is simply letting them know that you love them and are open to a conversation.
If they take you up on a conversation, listen. You may not agree with what they have to share. You may feel that you need to defend yourself. Instead, let them know that you want to rebuild your relationship with them, to start fresh. Ask them to share from their heart what they believe has separated the relationship.
Then just listen. Truly hear them all the way to the end. Don’t interrupt. You may not agree, but at least the issues will be in the open.
When your child no longer wants to talk to you, you aren’t without help. https://ctt.ec/0ds6H+ #livingfreetogether
Then take it all back to your Heavenly Father.
Ask the Holy Spirit to shine a light on the conversation. Ask these questions:
What can I learn from this?
What do I need to change in either my response or actions?
How can I grow through this?
But what if it’s all their fault?
If that’s true, then you’ve acted out of love and not hurt. You’ve turned to God, rather than into anger. When she’s ready, you’ve knocked down the wall between you to the best of your ability. You’ve shown her how a mama will fight for her daughter, even when she’s hurting and angry.
Just like God does for us.
I love that you wrote me. I’m reaching with a huge hug for you today, and praying for your mama heart.
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