Why can’t we just get along?
I’m not talking politics, or about getting along with the person down the street, but that person sitting right in front of you.
The adult one. The person you love most, second to Jesus.
You hear God telling you to believe BIG. Every time you bring it up, that person starts explaining all the reasons it won’t work.
Pop. Pop. Pop.
They are shooting down that dream as fast as you share it.
They aren’t the enemy. They just see it differently, or the realist inside of them wants to make sure that you count the cost first.
Ten years ago I knew that God was leading us to make a drastic change. I’m a leaper. So I started brainstorming ways to do that. I gave God the keys to my home and my life.
The problem is that I’m not alone in my life. I’m hanging with a guy I love a lot, and he’s included.
One summer morning, I sat outside on a rugged dock overlooking our pond. It’s where I prayed every morning. I asked the Lord one more time, “Is this for us?” and I knew it was. It involved risk, and walking away from security, but it was for us.
Later that day, I shared the dream with Richard, and his initial response was, “I don’t hear the same thing, babe. Until I do, I think we should stay put.”
Pop. Pop. Pop.
Can I tell you what I wanted to do?
I wanted to convince him.
I wanted to tell him that God spoke to me (and he did), so he better get some Q-tips and start cleaning out his spiritual ears so he could hear him too.
I wanted to show him ways to make it happen, so he would get on board.
Richard is good man. A godly man. He loves the Lord, and he’s in tune with God. It wasn’t that I was super spiritual and he wasn’t, but that God had a plan for both of us.
Yes, he spoke it. Yes, God meant it.
Would I trust God to speak to my husband in the same way?
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Would I trust God’s timing?
Was I willing to make a two-person leap, instead of tugging him over to my way of thinking?
Waiting became the next step in our faith adventure.
Two years later my husband walked in the front door. “It’s time,” he said. “I feel a release, hon. Let’s do this.”
That led to more faith adventures, and we are still on them today.
On Day #19 of Believing Big When You Feel Small, what does faith look like when the ones you love best sees it differently?
It’s not just you
We might think that this is unique to us, but stories like this are woven through scripture. Sometimes God spoke to the woman first, like he did with Mary when Jesus was conceived. Sometimes God spoke to the man first, like he did with Noah.
That loved one isn’t unspiritual because you heard first. Later on, when God speaks to them first, it won’t mean that you aren’t tuned in.
It’s an opportunity to trust together.
Live where you live.
I talked to God about that dream often. There were times that Richard and I talked about it, too. The one theme that played out in those conversations became, “live where you live.”
It’s tempting to be so wrapped up in your dream that you forget there’s good right where you are. It’s tempting to be discontent, and miss out on the miracles unfolding right in front of you. My first move wasn’t toward my dream, but to shift out of dreaming mode to experience my life right where I was.
When the time came to make the physical move, I hadn’t lost two years of my life. I was bringing those rich experiences with me.
Listen to your loved one.
I’m a leaper. Richard less so, but that didn’t make him right or me wrong. We are wired differently, and that wiring works really well together.
He asks that I consider what a leap looks like. To weigh the cost. To think through the next steps.
I release the dreamer in him. I cheer him on as he takes steps of faith.
Rather than seeing his words as “pop, pop, pop,” those words have value. It isn’t my job to pull him through the door, or shout over his reservations. Nor is it my right.
While I wanted to prepare for the move, the greater work involved was to prepare my heart.
The most meaningful moves made in those two years were spiritual. God shifting my impatience to trust. God moving the words I wanted to say to his ears, rather than to Richard’s.
There were practical things I could do as well, like hold a garage sale to get rid of junk. I knew we were moving at some point, and I also knew we had things in the garage and in closets that I hadn’t touched in five years.
Our waiting times are not wasted time.
There were times I put my hands on my husband as he slept and prayed for him.
I prayed for him simply because I loved him.
Maybe this sounds like a “they lived happily ever after” story, because it all worked out in the end. Maybe you’ve been waiting a long time, and it doesn’t feel like it’s ever going to happen. I couldn’t see the happily ever after of this story when I was praying. And to be honest, when the prayers were answered there were other challenges ahead — big ones.
Our prayers aren’t in vain. Praying for that one who believes differently simply because we love that person is powerful. We might discover that we are the one who is changed most of all.
Day #19 of 21 Days to Believing Big When You Feel Small
We only have two more days after this. Crazy, right? It’s flown by. I hope that you are taking steps of faith. That you are looking at faith in a brand new way.
Q: God spoke to them separately and at different times. Does this make either of them less spiritual than the other? Why or why not?
Q: Both had valid fears. How did the Lord soothe those fears?
Q: What was the result of trusting together?
Q: What might it look like to “live where you live” while you wait on God’s timing? Be practical.
Q: How do our prayers change when we stop praying for them to do what we want, and start praying simply because we love them?
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