Wow, I just screwed up in a huge way.

What do you do when you fail? We really have only two options. . . we can stay down or we can get up.

But what does that look like?

Take an honest look at the experience.

What happened?

At what point did things go wrong?

Did you take it personal?

Did you place yourself in their shoes?

Did hurt dictate your response?


Is there anything you could have done differently?

Is there a trigger that you need to be aware of? {It’s okay to admit that “this gets me every time” and to get to the bottom of the real issue.}

What is a healthier response when that switch is flipped?

Did your response move it into the resolution zone or retaliation zone?

Getting back up. . . 

Do amends need to be made?

Are you willing to learn from it and celebrate that growth?

Are you offering a fresh slate for that person, and for yourself?

Have you spent time with a God who loves you like crazy to talk about what happened?

Have you sought wisdom?

There has never been the slightest doubt in my mind that the God who started this great work in you would keep at it and bring it to a flourishing finish on the very day Christ Jesus appears. Philippians 1:6 (The Message)

Sweet friend, I know it hurts when you mess up, but you’re growing. You realize what you did and you want better for you, and for those you care about.

Don’t stay down. Don’t give up. You’re a beautiful work in progress (so am I), so get up and grow. Let God lead you up, up, up into healing and wholeness and the desires of your heart.



Thank you to Rebecca Drake of Bdrakephotography for use of this beautiful picture! Please check out Rebecca’s photography.