A few years ago I stepped in front of a crowd in Illinois to speak. Maybe it was the fact that my flight was delayed and so my entire day was hectic, or maybe it was an off night.

Regardless of the reason, half-way through things weren’t going the way I hoped.

Maybe this is where you want to encourage me, and say something like, “Oh, I’m sure it was better than you thought.”

It wasn’t, and this is the deal.

We all have those moments. 

That sinking feeling when you think:

What just happened?

As a mom, we can have those moments, too.

That night I went to the hotel room. I pulled out my notes for the next day. I prayed again.

And that’s when it hit me.

I was so afraid of messing up that I was anchored to my notes. The thing I thought would help me was making it harder.

So I tore them up.

Letting go of my notes was a risk.

It wasn’t my first.

It began a long time ago when I felt the Holy Spirit whispering:

God sees what you might not.

You can be a really good mom.

You are beautiful to me. 

I have a plan for you.

I don’t know what God is whispering in your heart today, but you are meant to be the mom and woman you want  — but it’s going to take risk on your part.



By throwing out the notes I was able to relate to the people in front of me. When I compare the outcome of those two messages, it might as well have been two different people on the stage.

What is keeping you tied up and tangled as a mom?

Is it time to take a risk?

In a sense, becoming a risk taker allows us to let go of the notes of our past, of the words of fear and doubt, and to begin to discover who you were meant to be all along.

Are you ready to become a risk taker?


Taking It Deeper

Read Page 125-127 in The Mom I Want to Be: Rising Above Your Past to Give Your Kids a Great Future

Q: What is the difference between taking a healthy risk and risky behavior?

Q: What is one risk you feel God leading you to take?

Ask these questions to determine whether it is a healthy risk or risky behavior.

  • Is it hasty or impulsive? (risky behavior)
  • Have I prayed about it?
  • Is it based on emotion? (risky behavior)
  • Have I weighed the costs of this decision? (Cost can be a good thing if causes you to grow.)
  • Is the benefit long-term or does it just make me feel good right now?
  • If it’s hard, am I willing to take the next step in faith?
  • Am I willing to redefine “success” to include bravery in taking that step?
  • What is the impact on my child or my well-being long-term? (If it’s negative, it’s risky)
  • Have I sought wise counsel and prayed over this choice?
  • Am I willing to trust that God sees what I cannot?

Q: Hebrews 6:1a says, “Therefore let us move beyond the elementary teachings about Christ and be taken forward to maturity. . . ”

In this verse, the author of Hebrews is encouraging believers to move beyond knowing about Christ to discover the beauty of living it out. How does this speak to you personally?