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You’ve blown it. So much so that it feels like there’s no way back.
Don’t believe that lie.
Failure doesn’t mean that God’s plan has gone away. Your mistakes aren’t bigger than God’s fingerprints on your life.
So that leaves one thing.
Get up, sister.
Lean into His love for you. Sure, there’s things that you’ll have to face. Things you’ll have to deal with, but that’s okay.
Grow through them.
Come out stronger on the other side.
And how do you do that?
Run to God rather than away from Him.
You see, it’s not about your worthiness. It’s about His. He cleanses our sins. He heals our wounds. He teaches. He even rebukes (because He is honest when no one else dares).
He wraps us in His love and redemption.
When we stay away from God because we feel unworthy, our focus is on us. When we run to Him, something powerful takes place. It’s described beautifully in this verse:
Here’s what I want you to do: Find a quiet, secluded place so you won’t be tempted to role-play before God. Just be there as simply and honestly as you can manage. The focus will shift from you to God, and you will begin to sense his grace. Matthew 6:6 The Message
Own your failures
For years I pointed to my past.
This is why I am the way I am.
And there’s some truth in that, except for this:
The past shapes me, but it doesn’t define me.
When I own my failures, I stop placing blame on everyone and everything else.
Then I can do something about it. Maybe there’s a gap that I need filled by God, by a mentor, through growth and tangible steps.
When I own my mistakes, chains are broken that desire to hold me back, keep me down.
Do more than say you are sorry
In AA, recovering members are asked to make amends to those they hurt.
It makes sense. It’s a huge step in healing — and even if they a person isn’t ready to receive your sincere apology or reject that apology, something healing is released in you through the act of doing it.
Sure, you’re embarrassed. Sure, you don’t know how they’ll respond.
Do it anyway.
If you took something precious (dignity, security, trust) from another human being, admit that. Say your are sorry without excusing your behavior or defending your mistakes.
Allow that space for grace as they learn to trust you again.
The difference between a great dancer or athlete and an average one is that they get up after they fall.
Every single time.
But Suzie, I’m sick of falling. Isn’t it easier just to stay down?
Yes, it’s easier.
But is that who you are? Is that what God has destined you to be? Is that where you want to be one week from now, five years from now?
No, because you’re name is etched on the palm of His hand.
Getting up is trusting that God’s plan is still in place. . . because it is.
You haven’t fell all the way back to the beginning. As you get up, remind yourself of how far you’ve come with His help. Praise Him that He’s brought you so far!
And that He’ll complete the work He began in you.
Accept and identify in His forgiveness
There comes a time we stop wearing the identity of “bad” or “gone too far” or “not worth much” to hold out our hands and let His forgiveness wash over us.
I know. It’s hard to fathom, right? He offers a fresh slate. But it’s so much more than that.
He redeems those failures.
. . . . who redeems your life from the pit
and crowns you with love and compassion, Psalm 103:4 NIV
It’s a God thing. I don’t completely understand it on a natural level, but supernaturally God takes the bumps, the brokenness, the burdens, that person who everyone else gave up on, and He mines it for good.
He re-identifies us as He pours out love and compassion.
You become what He knew you were (you are) all along.
The “good” from the bad shows up as you tell others who God is.
Slowly, your story changes. One chapter no longer identifies you. It’s not a story of failure, but of what it means to climb out of a pit to walk day-by-day with Christ.
The Unburdened Heart: Finding the Freedom of Forgiveness leads you, with the help of God’s Spirit, to leave pain to find wholeness, leave regret to find purpose and leave the past to live fully in the present.
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