I’ll never do that.
Have you ever said that? Maybe even as you looked at another person whose sin was hurting their heart or family.
And then you do it. It’s not what you wanted. Some days you aren’t sure how you got there, but you want out.
If you are part of the Proverbs 31 OBS study of The Mended Heart, you met Sarah this week. She’s a real woman. A beautiful woman I knew as a young girl.
She suddenly had no idea who she was anymore.
She was one of those who said, “I’ll never do that,” and yet here she was.
Her hidden affair didn’t stay hidden and she wanted to shrink from the gaze of those who loved her, and whose hurt couldn’t be hidden.
She wanted to hide from judgment when she went out for groceries. She knew what people were thinking.
She could barely breathe as she looked at the damage on the hearts of her family.
What do you do when sin has hurt your heart?
What a beautiful step toward healing. When sin hurts your heart, it’s time to bring it to Jesus.
He’s not afraid to talk about it. That may sound too simple. It is, but consider this:
You can remain stuck in your sin due to shame. . .
or hold it out with open hands so that He can heal you.
You can allow shame to become your identity. . .
or run to a Savior who cleanses you from all unrighteousness.
Is there work to do? Sure, there is. It’s healing work.
~ Sin may knock you down, but God’s love lifts you back up ~
Healing means that you’ll look at the deeper issues.
You’ll examine where the hurt began and why you tried to fill it with something that hurt you so badly.
If sin has led you to a hurting place, you’re not stuck. We can all turn in a new direction, with His help.
I’d love to pray with you today.
If there was a time that God gently pulled you up to heal your heart, share that to encourage others.
Suzie
Join this study today — it’s not too late!
Disclosure
An extra study question just for you.Q: On page 114, it reads: We’re not excusing our sin. We’re just placing sin out in the open and robbing it of its power. What is the promise in these words?
Love that quote about repentance. If we are hating ourselves for the sin we committed, have we truly repented? It’s so hard to trust God to separate that sin from us. We hold on to the hurt we caused, but you are right. Once he picks us up, the healing begins – not just for us, but for those affected by our past sin as well. Thanks, Suzie.
I once was held in bondage by sexual sins (immorality and perversion) and tried to get free in my own effort but Jesus was the only One that was able to fully cleanse me from ALL my unrighteousness and I am free today because of His precious purifying blood! Thank you Jesus!
Hi Suzie,
I’m stuck in chapter 5 on the area where we have to pause ..inviting the Holy Spirit to help us look beyond our sins. I know I am broken but but can’t pin point what causes it. I’ve been married for 23 years & consider my marriage DEAD for the past 4 or 5 years. My husband& I are Chistians but our 4 children (2 adult sons 23, 18; twin daughters 16) departed from the faith or I would say are not Christian. We tried to brin them up in the knowledge & ways of the Lord but we failed. When they were kids we bring them with us to church evwey Sunday. At the moment only our twin daughters are coming with us in the church, my younger si sometimes come with us on special occasion(- father’s day, mother’s day). Mt eldest son has never been to church for abot 3 to 4 years now & is having a relationship with another man. This really breaks my heart. Our family started to beome dysfunctional when my second son spin out of control when he was in the middle school about 6 years ago. He was diagnosed then with ODD at that time. That also started to wreck up our marriage. My relationship with God deepened in the midst of this valley experience & was in deep need for my husband to pray with me but he seems pretty busy with his job & some things paying bills, etc. Thiis made me angry & hate him. But that was 3 yeats ago.
Please pray hard for me that I can sort out which sins I’ve done has to surface out. At the moment I’m so confused.
Thanks Suzie for listening me.
My whole life has always reflected I was always the one that was wrong. I have always acknowledge my part take in every situation. I have been in error as well. The problem is everyone put all the blame on me. I have always just let it go. I recently started to think that maybe that is what God has intended for me.?! However, he wants me to handle it differently than I have. I have lots of compassion and have always felt it was easier to blame one than to look at yourself.
I have done wrong, I have just valued so many things from the bible that I watched grown ups preach about but never do. No one knew I did what I did, my relationship with God was not there business. Now I am being told not everyone can handle or accept the relationship that I have always had. Guess what, I love my relationship and was hard on myself for a long time as I never gave him the credit he deserves. He is such a might wonderful glorious Lord.
As I have been reading this book and this chapter. I am done. Others may place blame wherever I won’t take it any longer. I won’t be the scape goat. They will need to look in the mirror and the back yard and figure it out. I don’t judge you don’t judge me. Yes I am standing firm!
Heavenly Fathet thank you so much, that is what you have wanted me to do not to be pushed around. I will do right by you Father. Amen
I know I’m behind…in my post reading. I am currently doing this Binle study and it is life changing. I have a sin that I asked God to forgive me of and I know He has but I’ve never admitted to anyone and have off and on felt the need to…to just clear the air. I feel safe in this environment. When I was in my early 30’s I geo involved in porn…I thought…that will never be me and it was…and the longer it went on the worse it got. I have felt unusable by God for years even after forgiveness because of it. I’m so thankful that I am forgive and He sees me as forgiven and innocent before Him each day because Jesus died on the cross for me…and you. Please don’t let sin strip your relationship with God. When He’s forgiven you…it’s done. You’re forgiven and clean. You’re His daughter. Let him take you through healing.