No makeup, they said.
That sounded like a lot of fun.
Until the day of.
I don’t wear eyeshadow or a lot of makeup, but when a girl’s got psoriasis and rosacea — and that’s the day you wake up with several different mini-storms on your face, it no longer sounds like a party.
Even though I was battling a little bit that morning about it all.
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Because we need to give ourselves permission to be real.
It’s important that we understand that that looks like, and what it doesn’t look like. We also need to give each other permission to be real, to hold back our opinion, or what we think they should or shouldn’t do, to just let them “be” for a moment.
I hope you’ll listen to today’s More Than Small Talk conversation with three women who want to live brave (far more than just not wearing makeup) and desire to hear what you have to say.
And enjoy the bloopers. Extra points if you laugh along with us.
There were three resources mentioned today. Here they are, just for you.
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Sometimes all it takes for others to be real is for someone to go first.
Thanks for doing that here each week.
You know? I struggle with God’s call for me to use His gift of words in the realm of writing and speaking. It’s taken a while for me to determine the issue. A couple weeks ago, I felt a spiritual nerve pinch. I fear falling into performance; allowing yet another realm to fashion a fake identity. God and I have fought a long battle sloughing off those adhesions to His character design for me. Thank you for confirming and coming alongside with this “Permission to be real” video. You walked your talk and I am grateful. Thank you!
I’ve been there, Charla… it’s a mean, vicious cycle, isn’t it?! Praying you are able to find YOUR VOICE and be exactly the type of woman and writer/speaker that HE has called you to be!
It is a trap, but when we are aware of it we walk past it. It’s not for us. It’s not his plan. Cheering you on as you sprint past this trap of the enemy and settle into the beautiful disciple of Christ that God knows you are.
I am giving myself permission to take time to heal and be real. I so understand what you mean Suzie when you share something your struggling with and instead of hearing “I’m so sorry you are going through this” I hear things like “put your big girl panties on and just deal with it” or ” by His stripes you are healed” I know that truth but I also know, at the moment, I am in pain and I’m just being real. I post lots of positive things. I think people tend to only post the good stuff on social media and they don’t want to acknowledge the hard stuff and when I do it makes them feel uncomfortable.
BTW I never where make up. My husband says I am beautiful the way I am and I don’t need to put all that “plaster” on your face. Love my uneven skin tone and all my gray hairs!! ( Don’t dye my hair either) At 61 I give myself permission to be real!!
I am praying for you and understand wanting just a hug and kind words. As you continue to give yourself permission to be real and honest with yourself others will come along side when you need them.
Nancy, praying for you my friend! I like the part where Suzie says, “It’s important that we understand what that looks like, and what it doesn’t look like. We also need to give each other permission to be real, to hold back our opinion, or what we think they should or shouldn’t do, to just let them “be” for a moment.” I have sure been feeling that way this week and I want to just, ‘BE.’ No makeup while at home, mismatched clothes, barefoot or flip flops, hair in an up-do……and my husband says the same thing– ‘I’m beautiful just the way I am. ‘ I’m thankful for permission to be real. Take care my friend.
I don’t have a blog yet. Right now my real is caring for my husband of 40 years who has vascular dementia and Alzheimer’s . He also has kidneu issues. It was a hard season to enter. But God is with me and I have to be careful with some who tell me you are making it so why bring it up. There are days when I just need a hug. Susie I truly understood what you were talking about. This is losing my husband slowly and if it weren’t for God and the friends who stand by but don’t try to push I would be lost. Hospice also helps. My kids and their wifes are helping and God and the holy spirit are there to keep me grounded and help me maintain my joy as we walk this valley. Praying for you all . Thanks
Oh, Elaine… what a huge calling you have been given. I’m so sorry; I can’t imagine how hard this is for you. May you feel God wrap you up in peace and strength, perseverance and joy. Standing in the gap for you, sweet lady!
My husband’s dad is in the end stages of this disease. I’m so sorry. I’m reaching for a hug. I get it, and I pray that God strengthens you beyond the natural. That there is peace so deep inside of you that you know it can only come from him.
Elaine, lord has his arms wrapped around you he holding you that feel his strength, love , peace
feel his love. You have Hugs from all of us
God Bless were all praying we help each hold each other
Most of my life I have been labeled this mental thing and that. It seemed the more help I received the worst things became. I eventually was sent to a hospital, crisis center and group home for a short time to “get better”. I’m realizing now that there wasn’t much grace and truth in that (what I was needing most). Among my relatives, friends, and peers I tried to hide all of this. I didn’t want them to know where I have been and definitely didn’t want them to think of me differently then they did. There have been times I tried telling people I thought I could trust of what I was going through and I was left hurt and lost them as a friend. I have tried day after day to pull myself together . . put on my makeup and act strong, but underneath I’ve been so afraid. I’m learning it’s okay to struggle. I get so worn out trying to cover ever thing up and acting like all my ducks are in a row . . when they really haven’t been. The more I’m learning about God’s grace . . it’s as if I’m learning more about who I really am and can be. Thank you ladies for sharing this encouraging video! Your words are very helpful! I hope the surgery for your close one goes well!
You ladies are so cute. I loved the video. It brought some welcome chuckles. We do need to be real all of us.
All three of you are beautiful without makeup! I love your sweet, fun personalities. Thank you for the encouragement.