This conversation made me cry.

I’m sitting with two of my closest friends and they’re being as honest as they can about not feeling OK. I love these women. I know them. I don’t see them as anything but strong.

They are authors. They speak about God’s goodness. Yet when Jennifer shared how she felt shame when she came to the end of what she could do on her own, I wanted to pull her close and say I was sorry.

I’m sorry that people thought you were weak when you were being strong.

I’m sorry that you ever felt one second of shame.

When Holley shared her story, I sat quietly. Tears welling.

Out of all of our More Than Small Talk FB Live broadcasts, this one dipped into a personal space. One where I watched a family member struggle so many years ago when I was a child. I wished someone had held her close and shared that she was loved, she was beautiful, so many years ago.

I was so thankful that Holley and Jennifer weren’t afraid to share their stories of dealing with anxiety and depression.

One woman said this as the conversation unfolded: This was for me. 

Another said, “I would have never guessed that any of you struggled with this. Thank you for sharing this. I no longer feel alone.”

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I know that there are many women who are strong, faith-filled women who haven’t had a safe space to talk about this struggle. I’m glad we can be that space.

What does this have to do with Living a Life of Thank You?

Oh sister, I think it’s key.

We have to offer safe space for each other. Women step into a life of thank you as we hold each other up. It can absolutely change the dynamics of our relationships when someone can say, “Sometimes I don’t feel OK.” It can change the church. It makes someone’s struggle less weighty.

Listen to today’s More Than Small Talk conversation.

In this conversation, these points were shared:

  1. Asking for help is a strong move.
  2. Shame (and the devil) is a punk.
  3. Don’t dismiss someone else’s battle just because you don’t understand it.
  4. Your struggle is not your identity.
  5. Your struggle doesn’t mean you aren’t spiritual or brave or strong.

And hey friend, if you loved this discussion, I have some amazing news. Holley Gerth, Jennifer Watson, and I will launch the More Than Small Talk podcast on January 3rd. We’ll have some fun giveaways and announcements as we get closer to the launch, but me and these real-life friends can’t wait to connect with you every single week!


Day #17 of Living a Life of Thank You

Q: 2 Corinthians 12:10b says, “When I am weak, then I am strong.” In what ways does our weakness make us strong?

  • Genesis 16:13 says, “She [Hagar] gave this name to the LORD who spoke to her: “You are the God who sees me,” for she said, “I have now seen the One who sees me.”

Q: Hagar was despondent, but she received a promise. In her despair, God saw her. God sees you in your entirety. You are not defined by your struggle, but by his love for you. What is your response to that?

Challenge: See someone today who is struggling. No advice. No 1-2-3 formulas. Just let that person know that you care and that you see them.

Get to know Holley and Jennifer

Do you want to know more about Holley Gerth? She’s a bestselling author, licensed counselor, and speaker.

Do you want to know more about Jennifer Watson? She’s one of my favorite bloggers and a new author. You’ll love her site, and today’s she telling a little more about her story.

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