There are times I don’t know what to say, no matter how badly I want to.

When a loved one or friend is struggling with depression, we want to say the right thing. We want to be a good friend. In today’s conversation with Dr. Michelle Bengtson, a board-certified neuropsychologist, she and I talk about what helps and what doesn’t help when a friend is walking through depression.

Michelle is not only a neuropsychologist, she’s battled depression herself.

She wrote about her experience in a book titled, “Hope Prevails: Insights from a Doctor’s Personal Journey Through Depression.”

Join me in this conversation.

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These are four things that Michelle says will help.

  • You don’t have to know what to say, just be present
  • Don’t offer advice
  • Check in from time to time
  • Be aware that depression isn’t his or her identity

I hope you’ll check out Dr. Michelle’s Bengston’s book, Hope Prevails.

I also invite you to join Holley, Jennifer, and I today on More Than Small Talk Podcast for Episode #20 — Depression Doesn’t Define You! You can listen at or on your favorite podcast app.

What is one thing you learned from today’s conversation with Dr. Michelle? If you struggle with depression, what is one thing you want us to know about you? Let’s take this deeper. . .


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