Oh, those pesky unrealistic expectations
I love my sweet guy. I do. He’s kind. He’s funny. He loves God and lives his faith.
But he’s not God.
When we first married I was a bit of a mess. The Lord had begun an incredible work in me, but there was a lot of work left to do. There were times I felt inadequate, overwhelmed, too shy, and I had a long way to go in the area of confidence.
So I wanted Richard to be my safe place. I wanted him to make me feel better about myself. If I felt overwhelmed, alone, or insecure, I looked to him to step in and fill those gaps.
That’s a huge order for any relationship, but especially in a new marriage.
To make it even more complicated, this was not a conscious act. I had no idea that I was placing unrealistic expectations on our relationship. I didn’t have a healthy view of marriage, so I was flying by love alone. And this is what I thought love looked like. Though our marriage was sweet and I loved this man so much, cracks started to develop.
What I didn’t realize then is this: There is no person on earth capable of filling our every need.[Read more…]