Lately, I’ve been having conversations with women about expectations. There are all kinds of benchmarks we put in place before we let our heart be open.
While this is wise on one level, what I’m hearing women say is that it actually leaves them a little isolated because the expectations become unreasonable.
That friend has to be wise, godly, like the exact same things, share the same Enneagram number . . . or she’s not for you.
That potential man is already in love with Jesus and he is kind, but he has to come from a strong family background. He has to share your love for reading. He must see life as you do and have shared similar experiences . . . or this relationship is not for you.
That church has to feel like the church you grew up in, or worship like your last church, or have the same programs . . .or it’s not for you.
Wait a minute. That sounds like the only way we open our heart is if a person is exactly like . . . us.[Read more…]