I used to struggle with taking a compliment.
“Mom, you look pretty today,” my daughter would say.
I deflected with something like, “Even with this crazy hair?”
Another might tell me that she loved how a shirt looked and I’d say, “Don’t you love how it covers up my muffin top?”
Some might say that I was being self effacing. Humorous. Humble. I wasn’t any of those things.
I simply didn’t know how to accept a compliment.
There’s a lot of reasons that can happen. We don’t believe it. We don’t want to be vain. My inability to say a simple thank you to a sincere compliment sent a message to my two beautiful daughters, as I bounced back their kindness with a negative. I was telling them that I wasn’t worthy of their sincere words. I was pointing out what was wrong, even as they dropped encouragement into my heart.
I also sent a message that if things aren’t perfect, you can’t accept a compliment.
Ouch, ouch, ouch!
I’m thankful for two strong girls who didn’t let me get away with it. [Read more…]